Today is the first day of the New Year…really, it is. It’s the first day of back to normal, the holidays are really over, kid is back in school, laundry is going, meals are planned- no more scrounging for junk food in the fridge…NOPE…real meals, planned and balanced. The days are ordered with a happy list, the week as well. I love this normalcy.
I have made a couple of New Years resolutions, all because of the whole Brand New Start thing. I’ve been feebly trying to lose the 50 pounds Dr. Courage fusses about. No more feeble. Math calculations tell me if I lose 1 pound a week, it will be gone by Christmas. 2 pounds a week will make it gone by our 25th anniversary. Doable, yes? Yes indeed. That’s Resolution #1.
#2 involves the exercise Dr. Courage also fussed about. nothing major, no high pressure hours in a gym. “Walk a mile 2 days a week” he said. “You live on a golf course. No excuses.” said he. There’s alsoa very nice walking path in the park across the road from #4’s school. No excuses. I can walk it in 30 minutes, easy. And, it’s sunny today. No excuses.
I have learned the way to keep a resolution is one day at a time. If I do it for today, I can. If I lookat it and go “oh lord, 52 weeks? no way.” then I won’t. But if I do it today, that’s a snap. If I screw up and don’t tomorrow, no big deal, I’ll do it the next day. None of this “Oh I screwed up today I’m a failure this will never work I quit” Just for today, I’ll do it. I did it yesterday and didn’t die! I can do it today!
The biggest one is #3…I will be kinder to myself and other people. I tend to be hard on myself, beating me up for perceived behavioral infractions when no one else sees them. If I can be kinder to myself I can be so to others as well. Before I yell, I’ll ask if it’s really that big of a deal and since it probably isn’t, I won’t get worked up over it.
Do you have a resolution? How do you keep them when you do?